I’ve been really quiet lately. Its not because I don’t have a lot to say, its because I don’t know how to say what probably is the most important thing in my world now — I’m separating from Shaun.
I love Shaun (not loved, present tense, love). Shaun is an incredibly important person to me and I care about him deeply. He’s just not the right person to be my husband, nor am I the right person to be his wife (if you’re single and female and looking, Shaun would make an awesome boyfriend / partner / husband, I can provide references). We are approaching the separation and divorce collaboratively (wow, that sounds like a buzz word) and right now things between us are good, probably better than they’ve been in a long time.
Looking back, I don’t in any way regret marrying Shaun. In fact I compared him to Dartmouth, a really important time in my life, but a place from which I have moved on and grown. As far as what the future holds, who knows. I’ve found someone who I care about deeply and who I connect with on more levels than I can articulate. While I an open about most everything, this is one place, one topic, one issue, that for the time being, I need a little privacy.